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Wallahu alam. where it is not clear if the matter is good or bad, and the Muslim does not Wish we could all just treat each other with respect and be honest/sincere with each other, instead of playing games and lying. Assalam o alikum I am not a good Muslim and I do wanna improve and I would love a wife who will inspire me to become better in all aspects of life. But women should not let jealousy make them object to that which Allah has permitted, and they should not try to prevent it; a wife should allow her husband to marry another woman for this is a kind of cooperating in righteousness and piety. The threat of a husband who can not be fair, Men who already have two wives, then he should be able to support them fairly. Suck it up or leave him. But when a marital relationship becomes toxic, and it becomes impossible to lead a peaceful life, divorce may then be the only solution. Not to insult, I didnt mean it like that. Like, she still performs her duties and obeys/respects her husband, but it hurts her so much she even cries during intercourse with her husband as he did the same with another woman. Sincerely, this was an eye opener. According to scholars, the Shari`ah does not require the husband to get the consent of the first wife for a second marriage. This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. Restricting each and every man to have only one wife is not practical Even if every man got married to one woman, there would still be more than thirty million more females in USA who would not be able to get husbands (considering that America has twenty five million gays). Excellent and so so true! In general, being single and dreaming you are married is a good sign, but . , Just wanted to add, dont be afraid to compliment him. Subhanallah! It was a woman recently divorced, 4 children. Islam prefers giving women the honourable position by permitting the first option and disallowing the second. Unfortunately this is the pooint most men ignore intentionally or unintentionally. Get it together men. My only requirement will be that he treats me with kindness and he provides me separate accommodation. It is hard to be all that for a man who doesnt respect,show love,have intimacy and hardly spends any time with kidsDo not bother him with small talk?what is that? the holy quran declares that Allah subhana allah wa taaal permits him to take up to four wives as long as he gets all the necessary protocol boxes ticked. Men are using their own ways of thinking to have more than one wife but there will always be one wife he will like more or give something more to. May I point out that marriage is very hard experience for both parties. I think the issue nowadays is women are raised with the idea that men are more perfect than they are, and more like women. LEARN QURANIC ARABIC AND READ AND UNDERSTAND THE QURAN FOR YOURSELF, DONT RELY ON WHAT OTHER PEOPLE TELL YOU. I am a devout Muslim but multiple marriages disgust me. d ring. Please you deserve care, love, honour and respect. He uttered the divorce words three times in one meeting, then I went back to my parents house. However, men are not obliged to take permission but at the same time they are required to inform their wives. responding to great kindness and good treatment with a great wrong and We do not know of any saheeh evidence which refers to the of reaching you or your family or children. He tries to do something (like start a business or go back to school) but fails at it. The part about sex is ridiculous. If I love an older man but he is already married is it allowed for me to marry him, My name is Ayesha.. It is not for a believing man or a believing woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decided a matter, that they should [thereafter] have any choice about their affair. I am again into depression and dont know what to do. The author of the article should revise that fact about multiple marriages and how it say it should be undertaken only due to dire needs (not because He wants to for fun). Your husband is then forbidden from a 2nd wife unless he wants a divorce. could be in the good situation in which you are, but you do not appreciate Salaam sister, quesrion; you dont rhink we are in times of war? InshaAllah Allah will reward you for all your patience and effort. Just because man is ALLOWED to take a second wife, doesnt mean he should. honestly if he just cant, he cant. Below is one of the hadith narrated. There are several other reasons, why Islam has permitted limited polygyny, but it is mainly to protect the modesty of women. Definition of Polygamy Polygamy means a system of marriage whereby one person has more than one spouse. And constantly comparing us to Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) aint helping.Of course, we are supposed to emulate him (pbuh) as much as we can. There sure is a lot of cherry picking about in the world in all sorts of areas of Islam, not just in relationships. It's unpleasant and uncomfortable to be admonished. InshaAllah we all better ourselves and our relationships. Thwart the plans of the shaytaan by not letting this young The Quran says only only only only if you can make justice between them. The difference is of course in the idea that what we do is more for the sake of Allah Taaalaa than for ourselves. (interpretation of the meaning): Only those who are patient shall receive their reward in It is been so hard on me. yeah we had a fight recently in which he was about to run his car over me.my knee was slightly swollen n pain.i cried a lot that day.its really painful cause we had loved marriage.thought would be happy.but know. The Prophet did warn men not to hurt their wives and then expect sex an hour later. Both of you need to brush up on Islamic knowledge and discussions pertaining to polygamy. I will never accept a second wife! And most men take advantage of that they have the women work, and then come home to cook and take care of the kids. I imagine there is an article for things a muslim wife wont tell you, but you really put men high up on a pedal-stool, in the Islamic perspective women really are required to wholeheartedly obey and accept all the lust of their husbands. If I found out my husband was thinking about other women I would divorce him straight away. I believe you know the wisdom behind this command of Allah swt. Judge by what is right according to Quran and you will see how Allah subhanahu wa taala will sent double fold of blessings your way.. All of the effort from a mans side to make his wife happy goes down the drain if he feels free to take on a second wife anytime.. plus he WOULD go to hell!! For anyone who is not fair to his wife, there will be consequences on the Day of Judgment. I am a practicing Muslim by birth. NOT so men can be pigsthis aspect of Islam has been changed into something disgusting and is something that makes our religion look bad. I thought of leaving him and live alone with my son. You should not even be looking at other woman mate! You have both accepted something haraam and you have not You dont understand it fully and you really should not say such things because you are actually saying that you ar disgusted with Allah! They just need to make sure they are financially, physically and mentally capable of doing so, and if they dont then Allaah will question them about it. Note that this life is the life of trials and tests, and how Now days our men cant pick up anything more dangerous than a smartphone or playstation if he had to protect his family. My 3 children and I crowded the house and my sister in law soon became annoyed by our presence. arguments arise amongst them, which turn the marital relationship into an O Allah, this is my division in the case that I am capable of, so do not You reproach me in the case that You are capable, whereas I can not. Alhamduliallh. I would say some of the sisters plz know the different between yr opinion and the prove of the hathis or the quran, what you think doesnt matter what matter is what allah say. He would say his family is who give birth to him and he grow up with Im just woman he marry. I have just remarried another wonderful man. JazakhAllah khyr this was very true an helpful. fallen into a trap of the shaytaan, because he has made you attractive to As we have said in many fatwas how Islam caters for the rights of women, men should not tamper with rights that Islam made inalienable to women, part of which is to respect their humanity. And we do need your support.And its very troubling to be married to a woman who may not be around when the going gets tough.If you are constantly threatening divorce or separation or Khula (Islamic divorce initiated by the wife), you can expect your marriage to fizzle out very quickly. I pray to Allah Taaalaa that he gives us all the understanding of how a true Muslim should behave and that he forgives us all for all the wrong we have done in life, allowing us to die with strong Imaan and in the end enter us into Jannatul Firdaus. Wa`alykum As-Salamu Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh. And trust me, if your husband must choose between divorcing you before he takes a second wife. 3. its value. He wasn't by my side, not even one bit. If you can stop fantasizing about your future wives that is. Most of comments are pointing to second marriage and bla bla. The article is sure a nice way of giving a heads up of how many men tend to think like. Please dont misguide people.. if u dont actually know the answer. Its about consent on both sides. as far as i know most of the man have one wife. lets come to nowadays situation, in any country you will see women that are affected for she couldnot get one to marry or she may divorce or widow. 2) If your sex was all that great, she wilo do the same for her. This was shockingly one sided. A womans being patient in obeying her husband is one of the The punishment for giving out wrong information is severe. If you're loyal to your husband, than rest assured he'll be loyal to you. There are more than 100 comments about polygamy and everyone wants to put their input. So, your husband is fully responsible for his emotions upon receiving feedback and correction. But it must be received and acted upon, no excuses. As long as he is of good character and religiously committed, as the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: If there comes to you one whose religious commitment and attitude pleases you, then marry [your female relative who is under your care] to him, for if you do not do that, there will be tribulation on earth and much corruption. Narrated by at-Tirmidhi (1084) from the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) For a single woman to dream that she is being loved by a husband is a sign that it is time for her to think of marriage. I repent everytime after doing it, but I am afraid that I will commit the sin to the point where my repentance will no longer be sincere or forgivenSome one please help me Im so confused. The writer is just writing on what is happening in our society. (Verse 4: 129), 4. But remember what they doing is wrong. Where is their father? I asked, Cant he take care of his own kids? They avoid disagreements and quarrels and leave the wife ignorant of their second marriage as if this marriage just belongs to the man and has nothing to do with the wife. he wants to marry me but he said what if there was a 2nd one? Honestly the muslim women today are taking theri commitments way more seriously than the brothers. But we really would prefer to remember because we know it would make you happy. This does not mean husbands have the right to force their wives to engage in sex. ________________________________________ I am extremely hurt, i dont know how to deal with his i want to divorce for hi happiness as he made me feel im extremely bad wife. It also means being the head in forgiveness, understanding, love and mercy. full, without reckoning Polygamy can be of two types. Shukuran! Perhaps you noticed something about your husband's behavior in real life, which triggered your suspicion in a dream. While it is completely understandable that you are shocked and hurt, provided the situation, you may still have the chance to improve your family life with him in South Africa and keep it separate from his parents and wife in Egypt. If you dont then dont expect much from him. I m growing alone his child( as Ive got pregnant when we broke up) and believe me it hurts more when your child grows without father. Despite it being illegal, Hindus have more multiple wives as compared to the Muslim. dont expect him to remain content. He came to my brothers house to see me. -_- It is not fair to find a second wife if this second wife does not know he is married, and the first wife does not know he wants other. The average life span of females is more than that of males, and at any given time one finds more widows in the world than widowers. Try to reconcile all the lack of trust or resentment. Seriously? Yes, your right. Suppose my sister happens to be one of the unmarried women living in USA, or suppose your sister happens to be one of the unmarried women in USA. I could not imagine myself in a plural marriage. Noor was recently married. Hi,I came across this when googling about Islamic views on male fantasies.I have been married for the last 8 years and realised my husband not only think about other women (which you seem to agree that most men do,well most straight men at least) but what is recommended that I do should I realise that not only does my husband think about other women,he thinks about having sex with them as well.I find it truly disturbing and upsetting not to mention disrespectful but he seemed to be forcing me to accept this is what it really is.I am truly lost.Please advise. Our minds collect things and remember much better than we think. JazakAllahukhayran for your comment it was a point well made. 33:36 Ive read this article & I feel this article is like imposing things on women. then how can he accept to destroy the home of his Muslim brother and split If the wife has a genuine reason for not meeting the husbands needs then she will be forgiven inshaAllah. It really bothers me. I like to watch tv on the rare times Im not not being called for surgery. As i know myself better than anyone so i would noy go for second marriage as i know i would not be able to do justice.. Its like a drug. By clicking Accept, you consent to the use of ALL the cookies. However, if the man wants to marry after the second, Islam limits in it. Yea he loves me but sometimes i have an issue with trust. Things Ur Muslim Wife May Not Tell U. Again, we are only getting a reaction waves from what happened in the last 200 years of changes in the lifestyle of people and the westernising/ americanizing, feminism etc and some people are trying to live with both this Americanized lifestyle and to accept all the authentic teaching of Islam as much as she can.. This answers the question directed to the authoR. It is very unfortunate that some women object less to their Lastly, just like the man, a woman desires respect from her man too. Good morning She will ONLY be cursed if her husband is angry. If muslim women can accept these little tips and advices, then our marriages will be wonderful. - muslim1 Jan 3, 2013 at 3:47 1 This is an issue faced not just by women but also by men. What happens if you hate his touch or being intimate with him n never look forward to it ever. unbearable hell. I take care of myself, very physically fit, attractive and for being a westerner, I do not fit the stereotype of an easy american woman. that one thing man need just like food and drink. Uncover Hidden Dream Meanings. dis is remainder to our dear sister, jst vice-vasa may ALLAH c us tru.tanx, InSha Allah. Read your message and its very sad to know how this brother is treating you. Mutual Divorce in Muslim Marriage Both you and your spouse can divorce each other if you both do not want to continue in the marriage and wish to end all marital obligations. Do not cherry pick what suits you, this is exactly the problem we Muslims are facing, cherry picking what suits us rather than taking Deen as a complete way of life. Therefore not expecting her if she was unwell. The purpose behind multiplr marriages was to help and sehlter war victims or widows. I got married to him for my family, soon after marriage the day I went to his house the entire house burden n my father in laws responsibility was on me. Pathetic. Actually, the purpose of Islam allows polygamy is to abstain from adultery. When I thought that life would last forever and that nothing will ever change. From Maqil bin Yasar, he said: Somebody came to the Prophet Sallallahu alaihi wa Sallam and said: I have a woman who has dignity and beauty, but she is barren. But its true (usually). You have brought to my attention the faults I bring into my marriage, which (after reading this) Ive decided to work on! They are rather contradicting statements. I cant love him and give him what he wants. There was an immediate connection between us. Shaina i advice u 2 believe totally in Allahs word otherwise u will be among unbeliever, Allah as d creator know what is good us, Man are allow 2 marry more than one wife and we all see how female are very very Plenty than male i pray u will not be among 39 or 40s years ladie who av not sure of a particular man. The words reverberated through my brain. so tell me what are my rights? Log in, Join our e-mail list for regular site news and updates, All Rights Reserved for Islam Q&A 1997-2023. I pray Allaah helps you and others in situations like yours. Both of you need to brush up on Islamic knowledge and discussions pertaining to polygamy. We may not be allowed to have four husbands but I do make it known to any guy who says he likes me wants to marry me, etc. And men have all and every right to get married 4 times if he can afford it remember ladies , no he doesnt need permission from you but its better you discuss about it . Now I realize how good I got it because Alhamdulillah my wife is not like most of you regurgitating your jahiliyya to an extent to commit major kufr. Lol ur funny! men are said to lower the gaze in Quran Sharif. I started feeling he only wants few things from me I must be there with him on bed whenever he wants it I must cook food for him I must do all the household things and inreturn he couldnt console me not financially not mentally n not even emotionally. Have more time for ur friends than her. I have two kids with him and I dont want my kids got hurt. Shouldnt man and wife be friends, ask for eacothers opinion as Our Prophet(pbuh)did? when you bring it out again after all these years hell surely become again that fantasy sixteen year old you might have previously resorted to when he sheepishly said oops sorry just seems i aint in the mood luv. 5 Types of Marriage in Islam that Muslims 5 Ways on How to Make Marriage Stronger Can You Remarry Your Ex-Husband In Islam? I let the whole world, my familly, anythung for his sake and I love him so much but sometimes he is totally different, cold, and acting bad because of little things. You may want to read aboutRight Ways How to be Closer to Allah SWT. This idea is put forward in the Quran where Allah says: Men are in charge of women by what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend from their wealth. Thank you for making it clear, I was already shocked by the comments 0.0. She cries every time they have intercourse and are intimate. My guess is that they moved on to another town. That is the reason why Islam has prohibited monasticism. In Islam, limited polygyny is permitted and polyandry is completely prohibited. So much responsability. We have Your side of the story sister. means of entering Paradise, as it says in the hadeeth narrated by Ibn Sexual abuse is valid if it is been done by husband. It is also worth mentioning that the bride has the right before marriage to demand her fiance to agree in advance to certain conditions of hers, in case he is interested in pursuing another marriage later on. It is well known that women are by nature jealous and reluctant to share their husband with other women. 5815. As per my perception this article is for people who understands it or try to, leaving arrogance behind far away. After all, as Muslims, we SUBMIT our will to ALLAAHs. to Allaah for this great blessing and strive to preserve it and the family Watch this emotional cartoon animation to see how a man married another woman without first divorcing his wife. JOIN US Facebook https://bit.ly/3yOap. and look at the attitude of the person with a lot of knowledge.everything is wasted on the author.He is such a fool.using religion to put forward his dirty thinking.Alhamdulillah there are good muslim men out there.Dont spread your poison in the name of religion.Fear Allah. 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